Confession of a Single Lady

Contributed by: Sunflower Lady

I'm getting really tired of people commenting on how I need to change my style this 2015 and start investing on myself for me to become beautiful and attract the "guy".

It's not like I'm getting to that old maid stigma, am I? I mean I'm still young, about to go twenty-five, chasing for my dreams of a great career and financial freedom. I would still want to establish myself as a person, find confidence in who I am and what I do as a woman and become independent from my parents, even planning to go as far as abroad to be away from my family to test my potential and values. I am in the stage right now of discovering my true passions, of what truly motivates me and learning positive habits for life that would help me become who I want to be. I felt that at this time, what I decide to do is very crucial and I don't think having my first boyfriend at this point would be of any help. I mean, wouldn't it be like adding more balls to juggle when I can barely handle what I'm dealing with?

I understand people wanting me to look like a better version of me, telling me to get hair treatments and a stylish haircut with mani and pedi, shop for form-fitting clothes, nice shoes and pretty accessories and put on make up, swiping that red lipstick on. I'm pretty sure they have my best interest in mind especially that of getting a boyfriend. But as much I am touched by their concern, I would not want to do all these things just for that - to become attractive to men and have them pursue me. Right now, I would not want to have the headache of handling relationship issues and although me getting dolled up may make people misunderstand that I'm up for sale, I'm not. I believe I'm just ready to change. :)

Things have not been working for me in the past few years. I was not happy with the way I look and dress, of how I carry myself when I'm with people and how I usually lack confidence to speak my mind. I was just not confident of my appearance and abilities, of what I can do and I often found myself depressed, marred with doubts and regrets about my past decisions. I've been in a slump for a while, withdrawing into my shell because I felt I have nothing to offer, that all those ambitious planning I had when I finally passed the board exam was just that, plans - still on paper, waiting to be realized. But it just seemed natural that I'd reach a point when I say I no longer want to wait for the good things to come. I hit rock bottom of that pity party and I've had enough. I wanted change! To actively go after what I truly want instead of painfully drifting in the dallies of life - I believe it's the best thing to do.

Changing my life would mean changing myself first, letting go of those negative beliefs of scarcity, shame, worry and self-doubt that has poisoned my spirit for a long time, crippling me to almost give up on the the dreams I have in my heart. Right now, I want to believe in kindness, goodness and abundance - that nothing good comes easy but when it does, it comes as sweet victory. That if I work hard and put myself into it, with God's grace and the conspiracy of the Universe, I'll make those plans to reality. And so today, I'm embracing a new me, a person of hope and joy, of hard work and creativity, of beauty and practicality. This is what I want to be this 2015 and if that means dressing up for success, taking care of myself more to increase my confidence of going after the things I want, then I'm ready to getting pretty and witty. :)

And if by some accident, I attract a cute and smart guy whom I also fancy, who knows, I may be able to have a lovelife after all. Bring it on 2015!

Photo Credits: 
Mr.Joemeth Robles (You can check out his work of art at www.jroblesimages.com)